Follow Your Dreams!

We all have an idea of what we want to do with our lives, but how often do we follow through. Yes, sometimes life gets in the way. But, how many times have we gotten in our own way? When considering most adults are married or have children, it may seem that these are perfectly good reasons why certain things haven't been accomplished. I say it is a crutch. You many have to work a little harder or spend less time doing recreational activities, but should those reasons really stop all of the wonderful goals you have for yourself. Just take a moment to consider how much better you could be for the ones you love if you also took the time to make yourself happy. So I ask you, why haven't you followed your dreams?

Why would a man need to marry you if he already gets all that he considers to be the benefits of marriage?

Why would a man need to marry you if he already gets all that he considers to be the benefits of marriage?  How much is too much when you are just dating?

Warning!! The risks of dating/marrying me are greater than the benefits.

I've been thinking about relationships lately, and I am curious about a few things. So many people pride themselves in being a "Strong Black Woman", but who are you working so hard to convince? Wouldn't it make sense to work smarter, not harder? We, black women, have always felt the need to work harder. Why? Yes, we need to take the best possible care of our families. Yes, we should support our families financially. However, whats wrong with holding the men {and I use that term loosely} in our lives responsible? Now don't take that statement and run with it! I'm not talking child support. I want to know why more focus is not placed on grooming great wives, than just good baby mommas. Submitting to a man really isn't a bad idea if done for the right reasons. Do I enjoy cooking and cleaning? NO! However, I would become Martha Stewart for the right man. I know what I am capable of and I'm tired of proving myself to people who could really care less.